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Constructive or Destructive Fear?

This week you’ll be writing something about fear by drawing on examples to support  your main point.

Regarding fear, personally speaking, it may be placed into tow categories. One is something that you are fearful of which could help you move up a little higher; I call it a constructive fear. This fear not only causes you to sway away from the bad consequence, but motivates you to become a better person. The other fear is what discourages you or even causes you  to standstill or even move backward; I name it a destructive fear. Under this fear we are actually curling around your own world; you are afraid of making mistakes.

While studying English, you’d better have a healthy (constructive) fear in your heart to have a good command of English.

24 responses to “Constructive or Destructive Fear?”

  1. Emily(Lin) Avatar
    Emily(Lin)

    What Ifeared is lazy to study language. For me, I spend lots of my time into part-time job; therefore, I have less time than others to improve my language skills. I am worry about losing my language abilities; however, whenever I get off my part- time job, I would feel tired and lazy to study any language books. I know it was my problem because I was lazy to do somthing which can improve my language. I will try my best to overcome this problem although I was very tired. Sometimes I would also find my free time such as my holidays to study some books about improving language. I would not defeat by my own.

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  2. Amanda, Chi Avatar
    Amanda, Chi

    Are you satisfied with what you owning now? Care-free life, healthy family, and so on. I am the one who’s satisfied with what I owning. Then, fear of losing is what I have. If some day I don’t have such perfact home to live in? If some day the one I rely on is leaving me away? Or if some day everything around you is disappeared? These kindof things really make me afraid. That’s what i’m fear of.

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  3. Annie Liu Avatar
    Annie Liu

    Everyone knows that we are an advancement society. Not just now,also in the future, there must be a lot of high-tech things will be invented. My fearious is that I can’t catch up the trend. Sometimes I really don’t like accept the new things happen to my life. However, we should update very sooner,especailly we live in the capital. At some monents, I like thing keep the same, because I am not the person easy to accept the new things.

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  4. Patty Tsai Avatar
    Patty Tsai

    As I am a college of junior, I notice that I don’t have many credits to study, and it might be my destructive fear so far! Actually I am worried about my credits this semester, compare to sophomore and freshman years, I got almost 27 credits per semester, but I have only 16 credits this semester. Within these 16 credits, I don’t think I have many classes that can improve my English skills; I am not good at speaking and writing even I have speaking class and writing class; it’s not enough for me. I want more information and skills that can improve my English skills so that I can change my destructive fear to constructive fear.

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  5. Fiona Huang Avatar
    Fiona Huang

    At this moment, I have a healthy family and healthy body condition. But my mind does not healthy. I have been thinking that what should I do in the future and stand in the original place without moving. This might be the destructive fear in my mind.
    These days I found that classmates around me have already taken their steps to move forward. I seemed still standing in the circle and lost the way. I am afraid I will lose the strength to take the next step. But I believe that there is a turning point in everyone’s life.

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  6. Veronica Jiang Avatar
    Veronica Jiang

    My destructive fear is that I afraid of being alone . I like to be with friends and co-workers. Because when I need help they are the people who support me the most and they always give me advice.
    Then my constructive fear is that I afraid I will not have an appropriate job in the future. Not only because of the economic environment but about my own ability. I really want to sharpen all the abilities I had.

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  7. Miranda Avatar
    Miranda

    I think that I really fear darkness. When I am in a totally dark, I become very nervous. All I can do is just standing there and not knowing what to do. Because I think there is something hide in the darkness. I think the fear was not a very big problem to me, because I only afraid the totally dark and unfamiliar place. So if I was at home or some place that I familiar, the darkness won’t be my weak point.

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  8. ivy huang Avatar
    ivy huang

    I was afraid of losing creation. I always made some birthday cards to my friends and I was really enjoyed spending much more time on it. When I had no ideas to draw any pictures, I almost got crazy. It was hard to imagine the struggle.

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  9. gina Avatar
    gina

    Everyone has his/her own fear. As for me, I am afraid of hospital. Hospital is dark, quiet and full of the smell of medicine, which make me uncomfortable. On the other hand, I usually associate a hospital with pain, illness and death. As a result, I do NOT like going a hospital since I was a child. I am afraid the atmosphere, medicine and patients who look very painful.

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  10. Nicole Chen Avatar
    Nicole Chen

    The destructive fear of mine is the fear of cockroaches. I am so afraid of roaches that whenever I see one I will run away as I am about to be killed. I always feel bothered when I have to stay at home alone because no one can help me to kill the roaches and I am too scared enough to even take a look at that hideous, disgusing creatures and not to mention to finish their life.
    And my constructive fear is that I really really hate and afraid that my abilities to be questioned. If someone question about my ability in my specialized field, I will make more and better efforts in it to prove my ability should not be questioned.

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  11. Belinda Liao Avatar
    Belinda Liao

    All the fear in my mine is about loosing something or someone in my life. my family, my friends, and my classmates. i treat everyone by my true heart, everytime when i have argue with anyone, i’m so afraid that i will loose them. everytime when i loose anybody in my life, my heart is so painful. if i can choose, i don’t wanna be rich or famous, all i want is all the people i care i love can stay with me in my life, that would be enough for me.

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  12. Chelsea 蔣 Avatar
    Chelsea 蔣

    Recent I saw a show which was called “怪獸檔案” on Discovery Channel. It included two events. One of them was a man who went to the tropical rainforest alone and he was bit by a huge and weird monster. But, he still tried to escape. Because the poisonous bacteria invaded his body and he ran slower and he knew he was dying. I think that the biggest fear is you are dying, but there is no anything and anyone can help you.

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  13. Heidi Avatar
    Heidi

    I’m afraid I won’t have a job in the future. Every time I think about it, it always push me to do something, something I’m not really like to do but I have to do. This kind of fear makes me study hard and learn more. Another kind of fear is I’m afraid of being alone at home at night. It always scares me. When I am alone at night, I will become tense and nervous. Even a little sound would scare me.

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  14. Vicky Liu Avatar
    Vicky Liu

    I think what I fear is being alone. I mean it is OK for me to go some place alone, like studying in the coffee shop or reading in the book stores. What is the meaning of alone for me is that the people I love left me. Like I can’t even imagine what my life would be like without my parents. I’m afraid of people leaving me, I want the people I love can stay with me forever, no matter is my parents , my dear friends or my lover.

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  15. Janice Tzeng Avatar
    Janice Tzeng

    There is a disgusting creature which is exists in the world. It looks like a leaf, and its color is brown. When you walk on the street at night, maybe you will see it creeps on the wall or it just walks leisurely. It has wings and its wings cover its body, looks more shining at night. What is that? Cockroaches. For me, the most terrible thing is that when I see cockroaches. Whenever I see it, I scream and escape right away bcause it makes me feel uncomfortable and it looks ugly, dirty, and disgusting.

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  16. Vita Chiu Avatar
    Vita Chiu

    I am very afraid of stay alone. I do every thing with companion. Such as go to toilet, shopping… every thing. If I get alone, I’ll feel so bored and lack of sense of safety. I don’t think it’s a health fear, so I have to get rid of it. Now, I think I can do something with any companies. I’m glad of it!

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  17. Vicky Chang Avatar
    Vicky Chang

    The person who brought me constructions was my dad. When I was a 9 years-old child. My dad started to teach me English. He was so strict and severe that time. He even banned me to to go out if I didn’t study!!
    I was so afaid then, so that I tried my best to remember what he taught. Be be frankly, I didn’t like the way he taught me then, but after I grow up, I knew what he did was good for me!!

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  18. June Lin Avatar
    June Lin

    Everyone must have fear to something. For me, I am afraid of loneliness. From I am a child; I have lots of friends so I always feel happy. As time passes, I am used to accompany by someone. Last summer vacation,I didn’t have plan to go abroad or to learn something. But my friends all were busy with their own business. At that time, I suddenly felt bored and sad. I couldn’t see my friends and go out with them. Therefore, I just realized that I was a person who afraid of loneliness.

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  19. RAN LIU Avatar
    RAN LIU

    The thing I afraid of is about unsatisfied. I have lots of friends but it doesn’t mean everyone is intimate with me. I want more friends who will care about me, and when they are planning going out to have fun they will think of me. I have lots of clothes and shoes but I still want more so every time I get my salary I would like go shopping. I have a job but still want to find the better one. I have lots of things and it sounds like I should be satisfied for my life. But I am not, that’s what I fear about. Unsatisfied will make people greedy or want to do the bad things. I think I should learn how to satisfy with the things I already have.

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  20. Sarah Gu Avatar
    Sarah Gu

    I am afraid that I lost something is used to be have. Maybe I don’t like something change frequently. It makes me have no sense of security. If I get something important like friendship, I want to hold it tightly. What qualification can I hold it? I should build relationship by heart, doesn’t it? I think everything is worthy. I am afraid of losing because something could not come again.

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  21. mika Avatar
    mika

    I think I always want more. Although I know people should be satisfied with what they have and treasure, I still want more and more that I can not imagine. Sometimes I admire people have what I do not have, and start to compare. It is not a good condition and useless for me. I hope I can free myself from the notion.

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  22. Sophia Wu Avatar
    Sophia Wu

    I’m the person who afraid of lose something important in my life. I don’t like that feeling, and I don’t want to have that experience. Actually, I’m afraid of loosing my family, my lover and my friends. I need someone by my side. Everytime I feel lonely, I always want to go to park, seeing childrem playing and having fun there. It’s a good way to get out of lonely!

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  23. JAMES PAN Avatar
    JAMES PAN

    Learning English always is a kind of constructive fear to me, the tougher I encountered the stronger I am. I never give up in English learning, but one thing that I can’t entirely conquer is laziness. Once it gather, it would also come with destructive fear.

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