「爸爸以前可能是沒聽他媽媽的話才做錯事，65歲還不肯認錯，也沒從官司中成長，沒關係我會等他長大、等著他跟我和媽媽道歉，雖然父親一再傷害我，但我不會恨他，因為聖經教我不能恨父母，而他是我父親，是無法改變的事實。」(10/28/2008, the Liberty Times)“Perhaps Dad didn’t listen to Mom so he made mistakes. He doesn’t confess his mistakes though he is at the age of 65, nor has he grown mature out of lawsuit; but I’ll keep waiting until he grows up (in maturity) and apologizes to my mother and me. While he is hurting me, I won’t hate him because the Bible tells us not to hate our parents. As a matter of fact, he is my father.” This is part of a letter written by a boy who was born out of wedlock delineates his mental and emotional sufferings of being an illegitimate son while holding no grudge against his father.

“You shall honor your father and mother” is one of the Ten Commandments dictated by God so that the people of Israel would receive His blessing if they obey the commands. God commands his people to honor andrespect their parents not because they are good or just, sometimes even evil, but becuase they are parents who deserve their children’s respect.

Many children have suffered from family violence or child abuse since they were young. The only way to walking out of darkness of victimization is through forgiveness.